I Choose Me!

This post is brought to you by Tamia's Between Friends!

NOTE: THIS POST IS FOR THE LADIES!

I was on my way to work this morning, listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show (yes it's every morning routine) and Me by Tamia came on. Now this was not my first time hearing the song, but it was my first time listening the song. IT IS SO POWERFUL!!! It's basically about a woman saying, I can no longer put you (a man) before me. The most powerful and profound statement in the song is: "If I have to choose, I choose me!"

No matter how strong we are, we all need a little reminder that no matter how great he is or how much he loves you, YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE YOURSELF! I'm sure we have all been in a relationship/situation where we start doing things that we wouldn't usually do, you step back to assess the situation and realize you've become that "I'll-do-anything-for-my-man-no-matter-how-foolish-I-look" type of woman that you pity and vowed never to become (it's nothing to be ashamed of, it happens to the best of us). But at that moment in time you need/must/have to remember to CHOOSE YOU!

Keep in mind that "choosing you" might mean leaving him! All relationships do not mean forever. But there is a purpose for everything (rememer the old saying "reason, season, or lifetime"). So if you must leave that relationship, make sure you take with you GOD's lesson and remember it always.

Thank you Ms. Tamia for reminding us of our self-worth! And ladies next time you start loosing yourself in your relationship, remember the lyrics of this song:

-verse-
Love was a former owner, but quiet is renting our house
It seizes my lips from speaking, but forms a sarcastic smile
Suspense now raised one of your eyebrowes
You ask me if there's someone elseI replied yes, hell yes
You asked me if it's another man, I say no
You laughed and say is it a woman, I say yeah
Surprisingly you asked me for honey's name

-chorus-
And her name is me,
And she loves me more than you'll ever know
And I finally see that loving you and loving me
Just don't seem to work at all
So patiently, she's waiting on me to tell you
That she needs love
And to choose between you two, boy you know
If I have to choose, I choose me

-verse-
And she told me to tell you to never to hurt me again
Cuz if you haven't heard she's a bad chick
Even though I haven't been, no
Yet and still you try and test me by raisin' an angry hand
Put it down, put it down
I'm leavin don't try and stop me, (no)
I'm late and she is waiting, (yes)
My love for me is too much so I can't stay

-chorus-
And her name is me,
And she loves me more than you'll ever know
And I finally see that loving you and loving me
Just don't seem to work at all
So patiently, she's waiting on me to tell you
That she needs love
And to choose between you two, boy you know
If I have to choose, I choose

Cuz she's actually formin' a threesome
And I'm happy that I can join them, and
There names are me, myself and I

-chorus-
And her name is me,
She's waiting on me to tell you that she needs love,
Gotta choose between you two, and you knowIf
I have to choose,
I choose me, me, I gotta go with me

Work It Out

This post is brought to you by Carl Thomas' Let's Talk About It!

I GOTTA JOB MAN!!! After a couple of setbacks and no's, I finally got a YES! I won't be a bum this summer! I will be clerking for a criminal judge in Media, PA!

GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME AND ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD!

I told you they couldn't stop me!

Smooches Lovers

"Is You Happy?"

This post is brought to you by T.I.'s King!

This is yet another post inspired by Oprah. Today's show was about happiness and being satisfied with your life. There's a quiz designed by Ed Diener, a psychology professor at the University of Illinois and he's credited with being the founding father of happiness research (so he might know what he's talking about). You can go to Oprah's website to take the quiz (www.oprah.com). I took it and scored a 30 (give or take a few points) out of 35. This didn't really surprise me, I've always known I was a happy person.

If you take the quiz and your score says you're not the happiest, Dr. Diener recommends surrounding yourself with positive people that can see the good in you! They started talking about the laws of attraction (again) but it made sense to me this time. They were basically saying rid yourself of all things negative and allow in all things positive. Dr. Diener also said that you have to allow your life to be fantastic and you have to believe that you really can be completely happy.

Today's Challenge: Get out of your own way and make a conscious decision to be completely satisfied with you life. Take the quiz & BE HAPPY! (Humph I guess Mary J. could've been today's sponsor too!)

Smooches Lovers

Goal Update

Okay I've had a minor set back in my goal to find a job: I didn't get the job I interviewed for a couple of weeks ago. I was a little depressed for a minute but I decided to turn this little blemish into beauty mark! So I've applied for 2 more jobs and there are 3 more on the list. Oh they can't stop me because I'm on the move WATCH OUT!!!

Smooches Lovers!

Motivation

This post is brought to you by T.I.'s Urban Legend.

Last Friday Oprah featured several teachers of The Secret (basically a new theory on living a positive life based on the law of attraction). Now I wasn't particularly moved by this theory (praying & working hard has worked wonders for me), however she had an update show on today and I heard a quote that was kinda interesting. One of the teachers of The Secret, James Arthur Ray, said "Trying is failing with honor." Okay so at first I was a little confused but then he explained and it all became very clear (and pretty motivating too). He said that when people try they usually don't succeed (i.e. I'll try to make it to the party - we all know that means you're not coming), so instead of trying we should start doing. So today I made the conscience decision to stop trying & start doing.

And now for your challenge (yep this blog comes with homework) pick one of your goals (maybe start with something small for now) and instead of saying you'll try to accomplish, say you're going to accomplish. Next month reflect on your goal and see if you've accomplished it. Report back & let me know how did. Don't worry I'm going to participate too - my goal is to obtain gainful employment for the summer! GOOD LUCK!

Smooches Lovers!